Each day on the Isla de la Juventud, I passed the same street while walking home. On this street, every day, a girl threw flying kisses to me or made the typical Cuban psssst… I mainly ignored this or just said Hola because it happens everywhere. The third day, the girl followed me with a bicycle and, thus, started having conversation with me. She told me that she is a primary school teacher on the island, maybe therefore, I understood her Spanish very nicely making the conversation very valuable to me. So, we went to a park and talked a bit until her aunt came with her child. The aunt was pretty straight and asked why I do not invite them for a drink. So, we went to a shop and I paid 3 soft drinks and cookies for the child – however, still less than 2 US$ altogether.
Back in the park, the girl told that she also has a kid, which is 7 years old. As the girl looked so young and in fact was twenty years old, this was astonishing. The aunt and the girl explained: As the girl was 13 years old, she went out with an older boy. As she didn’t yet know too much about getting children, and the boy didn’t take care but wanted to have fun, she gained a lot of weights the next months before telling her family about it. Thus, she got the kid. The next part of the story was not so clear and I was too hesistant to ask. Since her father, mother and siblings do not live on the island but in Havanna, I guess that the situation was pretty difficult for the family and the split of the family was due to this. Since she was living on the island with her grandma who took care of the kid.
As I enjoyed conversation and didn’t know anybody else in the city, we “dated” for the next evening. I picked her up and was presented to all the aunts, cousins and other more distant family members. All of them lived in very poor conditions, mainly just a barack. They told that the house had been destroyed by the hurricane last August – about which I already read that it had a bad inmpact on the island’s infrastructure. Then, we went to a bar and I bought some soft drinks and a bottle of rum for less than 5 US$ in total. After sitting at a table, two other girls, who were friends of the girl, passed by. After the famous psssst, they joined us and I offered some rum and soft drinks – as we obviously had enough of it. However, one of the girls didn’t like rum neither the soft drink and asked me to buy a beer. I thought that this was strange and denied – as she didn’t even say hello to me as she sit with us at the table. A bit later, one of the girls asked me whether she could take one of the still closed soft drinks home to her kid. I denied, again, and tried to explain that I do not have unlimited money but they seemed (or pretended) not too understand.
Later, an older woman (around 40) approached our table – obviously being drunk – and asked for rum. I wouldn’t have offered any because she definitely was too drunk for that but one of the girls did. As we still had plenty of Rum, I let the things happen. The result: A bit later, the same woman entered the bar literally crawling… Anyways – not my fault! Later, the cousin of the girl also joined us and I mainly talked to him as he also spoke a bit of English such that he could at least translate some words I didn’t understand.
Next, the girls wanted to go to toilet but the bar had none. Thus, they went somewhere else but returned a few minutes later to ask me for 0.25 US$ per person to be allowed to use the toilet. Although it was strange, that I obivously had to pay everything (and I doubted that they would have to pay 0.25 US$ for a toilet), I was curious what else would happen and as the money I paid so far was within reasonable limits, I played the game.
The girls didn’t return at all, I didn’t mind since I had at least the cousin as company (and the still pretty full bottle of rum). At the beginning he didn’t really want to drink Rum but in the end, he cleared more than half the bottle. He proposed to go to dance club around the corner. Equipped with the bottle of rum, we went there and he obviously had lots of friends there who all were invited to drink with us. Waiting for the girls to return, he told me about his blond girlfriend from the US. Whatever. One of his friends asked him wheter she could have some more Rum. As I told her that she could also ask me, she just looked weird at me.
The cousin told me that the entrance for the club is 1 US$ each. I said that I can’t pay for all of us – already 5 persons although the girls didn’t yet show up. He completely understood and said, “no, no” and explained that I should just pay for the girls while he would pay for himself… However, we stayed outside the club as I didn’t move to the entrance (and wouldn’t have paid 4 US$ entrance for these girls). As I started to become sleepy, we made some preliminary plans for the next day, which didn’t become reality as I was already tired of such a company. The cousin naturally walked me home and we met the girls, who obviously needed a long time on toilet, again. They joined us to walk me home which I thought is not required – but there was no chance to escape. Although the girl was away for the last couple of hours, she indeed asked me on the way home to pay another soft drink for her kid… WTF!
My conclusion: In Cuba, a lot of people just see tourists as a big dollar sign, which is definitely annoying. However, I think one should also understand the situation: One earns more than 75x times of their income and the locals of course are aware of this: They know that tourists do take a taxi for half a month salary of an upper class worker. I am also not sure how to assess the way they ask for buying something. Sometimes, they ask in such a straight way and they do not seem to realize that we think it is strange. As I have heard, that men do pay a lot (or everything) if they go out with a girl, this might also be a mix of both.